MT RPK: My most sincere apology to the nation

My most sincere apology to the nation PDF Print E-mail
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Thursday, 21 May 2009 06:21



Source: http://mt.m2day.org/2008/content/view/22142/84/

I made it very clear there would be no negotiations. How can I agree to bribing police officers to get my son off the hook after speaking out against crime, corruption, abuse of power and cover-ups of criminal acts by those who walk in the corridors of power?

NO HOLDS BARRED

Raja Petra Kamarudin

I offer no excuses. My wife, Marina, and I have five children, all now grown up. Four have made a life for themselves -- two are now married and have blessed us with four grandchildren. One, Raja Azman, left home when he was still in lower secondary school and chose to end all ties with the family. That was about 18 years ago or so.

Since he left home, he has been in and out of trouble, the result of living on the streets and sleeping in the back alleys of Kuala Lumpur. Invariably, life on the streets like an urchin turned him into what he is today.

Muslims believe that heaven lies beneath the feet of one’s mother. It is therefore seldom a Muslim mother would bring herself to curse her offspring. Doing so would condemn that child for eternity. That is what Muslims believe.

My wife made it very clear to our prodigal son that he turns his back on the family and resorts to a life of crime at his own peril. It does not matter the severity of the crime. Crime is crime whatever it may be, big or small. And is it not the tendency that petty criminals eventually migrate to hardcore crimes? He therefore invites his mother’s curse if he brings shame to the family. That was my wife’s final word on the matter.

Our son was warned that if he ever got into trouble he was entirely on his own. He can’t expect the family that he has disowned to rally to his side. He has made his bed so he must now lie in it. That was our irrevocable and uncompromising stand and this was delivered in no uncertainty to our son. He would have to make the decision as to what it was going to be.

Marina and I received a phone call a couple of months ago that our son, yet again, was in trouble. It was a call from a police officer. The phone was passed to our son so that we could be assured he was in the hands of the police. Although it was a huge disappointment to both of us, it was no shock, neither a surprise. This was yet another brush with the law that our son has got himself into over more than a decade.

The purpose for the phone call became clearer after our son handed the phone back to the police officer. They wanted to negotiate a settlement. The problem is small, we were told. This can be settled easily enough. They know we would rather bury this problem than let it become public knowledge. We are, after all, high profile. And bad publicity such as this would not help our image.

I made it very clear there would be no negotiations. How can I agree to bribing police officers to get my son off the hook after speaking out against crime, corruption, abuse of power and cover-ups of criminal acts by those who walk in the corridors of power? Sure, maybe no one would know about it. Once I pay up, the matter will be buried so deep no one would be the wiser. But I would know. My wife would know. My family would know. And the police officers who I had bribed would know.

How can I continue speaking out against what ails this country when I am not able to walk the talk? It is so easy to talk when you have nothing to lose, except maybe your freedom. But when it comes to a member of your family, you compromise your principles and violate the very thing that you speak out against.

When I hung up the phone, I could see the pain in my wife’s heart. After all, are not the eyes the window to the heart? Which mother can abandon a child, never mind how evil that child may be. It takes a very determined woman to put principles before the welfare of the family.

We knew it was with dire consequences that we had turned down the offer to settle the matter. We would be made to pay dearly for our stubbornness. They would make sure that we would suffer shame never before suffered by our family.

My children are devastated. The thought of our son having to spend a good part of his life in prison is only part of it. The fact that he carries the family name and that this would be held against the family was their main concern. They knew we would be made to suffer for what Raja Azman had done.

This was a predicament we would never be able to avoid. It would have been so simple to just agree to meet the police officers and pay them the money they wanted and all would have been settled. But it would have been settled only for that short moment in time. I would have to carry the knowledge that I sold out my principles and was not able to walk the talk for the rest of my life.

How can I continue doing what I am doing knowing that I am not able to practice what I preach? I would lose the moral high ground and would no longer be qualified to talk about change and about a better Malaysia. I am, after all, as corrupted as those people who walk in the corridors of power. My son may walk free. But I shall be taking his place in prison -- not a physical prison, but a prisoner of my own nagging conscience, which will haunt me till my last day on earth.

As a father, it was a most difficult choice I had to make. It was more difficult for Marina, the mother who gave birth to that son. We held each other’s hands and looked each other in the eye without speaking. Words were unnecessary. In that silence our hearts did all the talking. We knew we had to bite the bullet and face whatever lies ahead of us without wavering.

Marina and I apologise to the nation for what our son has done. As parents, Marina and I accept that responsibility.

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written by MalaysianFirst, May 21, 2009 06:28:44
Dear RPK,
No apologies needed. Just continue with your good work.

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written by Watchdog, May 21, 2009 06:29:54

Shalom RPK. Apology is not needed? What your adult son did does not vicariously make you both liable.

He has to,rightly but harshly, face the consequences but well meaning Malaysians will uphold him and your family in prayer. After all, look at Hussein Onn's son! smilies/sad.gif smilies/sad.gif

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written by Path Fighter To truth, May 21, 2009 06:40:56
You are strong.Do not think of it again.
I have the same problem with my sons.
We are the truth fighters and we must face reality.
May God bless You and your family.
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written by ultraman_dyna, May 21, 2009 06:43:22
Salam Pakcik Pete,

Its a test for you and your family. Hang tough like alwayz..
U did ur best and leave the rest to God..
May you find happiness in the end.Insyaallah(God willing) smilies/wink.gif
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written by A MI, May 21, 2009 06:45:49
Look at a few muslims who stole millions or rajyat's hard earned money.
son of toyo
son of abdul razak
son of taib
daughter of kechik
and many more
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written by chapatti_joe, May 21, 2009 06:49:11
Salute! Wish I was that strong.
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written by Watchdog, May 21, 2009 06:50:22
Typo error. No question mark after the word 'needed' in my comment above.
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written by nanakassim, May 21, 2009 06:52:37

We believe in the Creator and are guided by His teachings. We provide our children with love, education, protection and guidance up to the time when we are confident they are able to make their own choice.

We can only assess the wisdom of their choice; only God knows their intent. In order to uphold our belief in the Creator, we entrust our children's future in His hands so we may continue our journey in life.

You did the right thing, for it is far better than to place your son's future in the hands of the satanic bn govt servants. These are the servants who believe that they can provide protection to a son who causes the death of another.

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written by docselva, May 21, 2009 06:56:36


Dear Sir RPK,

no apologies needed,what you wrote explained it all,you cannot decide for him,this time he will learn.hopefully.

I am a parent too,I know how you feel,this is the reality we live in.
you and Marina take care.
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written by non conformist, May 21, 2009 06:57:16
Thus saith the LORD,

" 20 The soul that sinneth, it shall die.
The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father,

neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son:

the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him,
and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him.

21 ¶ But if the wicked will turn from all his sins that he hath committed, and keep all my statutes, and do that which is lawful and right, he shall surely live, he shall not die.

22 All his transgressions that he hath committed, they shall not be mentioned unto him: in his righteousness that he hath done he shall live.
23 Have I any pleasure at all that the wicked should die? saith the Lord GOD: and not that he should return from his ways, and live?"

Ezekiel 18.
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written by Junglefever, May 21, 2009 06:57:53
Dear RPK

No apologies needed. In fact, it is with awe that I right this comment. How many folks out there would stand by what is right and accept responsibility rather than take the easy way out. Now, if some one compared to what you have done and going thru with some of the deeds of past great people like Gandhi, I would willingly agree.

It doth remind me of a favourite old P.Ramlee movie, Anakku Sazali. Truth and justice must be upheld.

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written by Shimshon, May 21, 2009 06:57:58


So - their trying to get you to come out of your hiding - didn't/doesn't work, huh?
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On another note/point: Maybe this would be a changing point for your son, for the better, from now on.

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written by jeya, May 21, 2009 06:59:21
Marina/RPK!
Va'anakum & Sa'alam!

I was driving home on Tuesday last, when this piece of news was flashed at about 6.00pm.I was stunded.

I have always felt & seen from the eyes of the both of you & your daughters when we briefly met, there was some shadow behind.
I put it down to the whole "legal" shenninigans.
Good People!

The Ol'Man - in - the Sky{TOMS}has his plan for each one of us.

We may be born into one family but each of our Lifes Journeys are varied.
It is your destiny to watch Raja Azman go thro his battles & arise from such as did the proverbial PHOENIX.
You and all of us can{& must}only but pray & send out positive vibes for his safe & blessed return from his battles - wounded but healed.

You both are the parents & will awlays be, but leave Raja Azman to TOMS.

THERE FOR THE GRACE OF GOD GO I!
Godspeed.
Jeya
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written by Rashid, May 21, 2009 07:00:20

Apology accepted dear RPK. That man who has disowned you and Marina should pay the price and should carry his own cross. He should reap what he has sown. Your struggle against the forces of evil is neither dented nor slowed simply bcoz a prodigal son who has left his family two decades ago chose to swim in evil.

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written by needchg, May 21, 2009 07:02:44

Mear RPK and Marina, I read this post from you this morning at 6.45am. I am so sorry of what you are going through. I dread to have to go through such a situation too. But I have the utmost respect for you for all times. The gods have not been fair. Take care. Let your son learn from his mistake. No choice., He will be a better person through time.

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written by singam, May 21, 2009 07:07:55

Dear Pete, I firmly believe that nothing happens without reason. Whatever the pain one feels, it is important to try to understand or make sense of what befalls.

I see this incident as an excellent opportunity for you to demonstrate right action. It often takes courage and strength to do the right thing. It is easy to be hypothetical but a lot harder when faced with reality.

Through the pain, you have shown the rest of the nation that it is possible to act with integrity. You have affirmed your moral credibility and earned the right to bash anyone who can only come up with excuses. This can only lend strength to your purpose.

Be strong and stay well.
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written by Captain, May 21, 2009 07:09:38

Raja Azman can now graduate, grow up to be a POLISMAN!!

Anyway, he is no longer a kid, at 32 he is aware of what he is doing and responsible for it. Sendiri buat sendiri tanggung.

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written by ZamZamAlaKazam, May 21, 2009 07:16:46

...your detractors now may have a new ammo. The spinning in the MSM would be to the max...

Just be yourself, hold your ground and do what you do best.

Ultimately people can judge it by themselves...

Personally, sometimes I did things that my parents weren't proud of, in fact I still do... smilies/sad.gif
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written by Remo, May 21, 2009 07:17:13
No worries Pete.
You don't have to feel guilty.
You have to go on.

I am Indian and we Indian believe in fate.
I believe it is fated.

We are with you and you continue your struggle to eradicate the corrupted government.
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written by Susu08, May 21, 2009 07:18:28
Dear RPK ,

I am also a mother and I am crying right now because I can feel the pain Marina and you are having right now, knowing you cannot help your son get out of trouble. As for the dishonor he brings, I think it is not dishonor but honor for it shows you are a man of principles.

Having said that, while he cannot escape a sentence, I think the door to his family should remain open for him . Who knows, maybe this bitter experience will turn him around.

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written by Mama Juwie, May 21, 2009 07:19:40
Dear Raja Petra,

This situation reminds me of P. Ramlee's movie, "Anakku Sazali" where the father called the police to arrest his criminal son. Also the story where Prophet Muhammad used to say that if he finds out that his daughter Fatimah steals, he would severe her hand himself.

This incident does not make Raja Petra a failure. This incident proves even further that Raja Petra is the man who walks the talk. No matter how bitter and disappointing it would feel, I pray that in the corner of your heart you will find peace because you know you have done the right thing.

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written by Angela Ooi, May 21, 2009 07:26:05

Dear Pet, u have always been very particular about having 'maruah', even this heartbreaking episode cannot shake your principle. I am crying with you. My friends and I salute you and Marina and we send our love and prayers.

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written by ylcc, May 21, 2009 07:33:56

Dear Raja Petra. My daughter is 28 now, but up to the age of 27 she was so rebellious. The kind of life she led would drive one up the wall. You would be going to bed, and she would be waking up. Since she is a very pretty girl, I have lost track of her beaus (none whome I approve off!). She would come back with a mohawk-haired guy, next day a purpled haired one, another day bald with 10 earrings in his ear. I told her I do not approve of bikes, she would return home in one. The more I objected to her style of living, the more she went all out to spite me. One day she came back with a guy with tattoos. What horror! I made it clear my stand on tattoos, and she purposely had one done just above her hips (although on hind sight, it was quite sexy!). Two years ago, I had gone back to Singapore just to be with her on CNY day. She practically walked out on me on CNY Eve and left me alone - the most important day for a Chinese! She did not come back for days. When I visit, she would disappear and when I leave she would turn up. She landed up in a hospital for depression. Alamak, I could go on with the headaches of a parent.

As parents, we have given our children a proper upbringing. Children are children. My friends too have the same problem with at least one of their children. My brother is another headache, and he is almost double your son's age. My son, on the other hand is a real angel. MBA scholar, good government post, given me 2 wonderful grandchildren. Same blood, same parents, same upbringing. My daughter has everything, but how do you explain her behaviour? I do not understand it myself, but she said that I never approve of anything she does. Sigh! Can die lah, just tell me how to approve of that kind of thing - is it that I am too old-fashioned and a question of generation gap? Anyone an expert on the art of parenting?

A year ago, my daughter mysteriously changed (probably thinks that she has driven me crazy enough, and time to stop before she drove me to my grave!). She became the same beautiful child of mine up to the age of 17 yrs. She is now finishing her degree. For the first time, we approve of her boyfriend and she is leading a normal life. Can someone explain to me what happened? As a mother, whether 1 yr old, 20 yrs old, 30 or 50 the child is still yours. There is absolutely no need for you to apologise or explain the inexplainable to anyone. We should be the ones to thank you for fighting for our children to be part of a better Malaysia.

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written by TwilightYears, May 21, 2009 07:36:42

Dear RPK, no apology needed. You walk the talk. You stick to your principle. You apply it to anyone, including yourself and to your loved ones. The hardest hit would be to Marina, and I salute both of you.

This son is alreadypast 30 years, and he can think for himself and he should bear the cross himself. He has to pay back all the wrongs that he did, else he has to face it in life hereafter.

It would be just so easy to say "Yes" to the Police and everything is settled without questions being asked. You chose to say "No", and it is good in the eyes of God and to the people who stands for truth and stands against corrupt practices.

Please let us, as parents, share your (and Marina's and your whole family) the pain that you experienced right now. But please, do not feel that you have done anything to shame the society nor the community. Your son is the responsibility of himself and by himself since he is an adult. In the best of a family, there is bound to be one or two considered as bad apples. But do not lose hope for Allah has HIS Plan for us, to each he has decided what we should become. HE Knows All and HE KNOWS what is best for us.

All will be well. Just trust Him.
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written by Sunnysoul5, May 21, 2009 07:38:16

RPK and Marina, your sacrifices and strong principles are the role model for the people of Malaysia. It is painful to see own son being punished by the law of the land. He will probably become a better person after the rehabilitation if he has the will to do so.

It is a very painful decision but the respect is gained for sure.

Keep up with your leadership and struggles.
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written by Centrino, May 21, 2009 07:39:29
Dear Dad RPK & Mom Marina,

Don't worry. You have opened the eyes of thousands of people like me (your son's age) thru your articles. You are like our godparents... I know it's tough but be brave....

It's all god's test...
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written by talk2stop, May 21, 2009 07:45:44
I read your article with a heavy heart. Now that you may "not care" but the people that walk the corridors can "control" you. Your son's pain is part of your pain. You need not to bribe them RPK. What they want from you is to retire early and your son will be safe & sound in Prison.
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written by raybeam, May 21, 2009 07:45:52

as an ardent fan of your blog i find that by far, this is your most frank and interesting article. your principles are most commendable. i'm sure that it takes a lot of courage to appologize to the whole nation with regards to your wayward son's outlandish behaviour. personally, it is my opinion that you have taken the right decision by not complying to the wishes of the police, for had you given them a bribe, it will haunt you for the rest of your life, and all your efforts to bring down the barisan government will be in vain. like many of your readerws, my heart certainly goes out to you but with god's intervention, i hope that your son will turn over a new leaf so that he can be an upright citizen again. finally, my regards to your family, and do stay safe wherever you are. for your information, i have coppied all your articles thus far and will continue to do so to share with other malaysians who are not politically motivated. do keep up with the long and hard struggle for i am certain that through your efforts to bring about change in malaysia, we will certainly be rewarded with success.

written by alfred ho the blind singer.
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written by JinJangJoe, May 21, 2009 07:45:57

While I was reading your apology, I am crying.....It takes great man like you to apologize. 'FEW GOOD MEN'. What a painful situation? Go through YM Pete. All your faithful reader's prayer will not go in vain.

Marina and you, will be alive to see- the son, you thought, gone beyond redemption, going to be the best son, after serving his time. The Almighty has ways to bring forth fruitful tree out of discarded seed. Marina! believe me.

PEACE OF GOD, SURPASS ALL UNDERSTANDING.
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written by Flying Free, May 21, 2009 07:46:01
I am a parent and I know how it feel when our children get into trouble.

I understand your principle and your stand on it. However, I would have thought he should be at least have legal advise. I think that is within the law.

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written by Bloodhound, May 21, 2009 07:46:34
Pete,

There's no need for any apologies but do not close your door for his return.

But most importantly, never take the bait dangled out by the police. Once you bite the line, they will have a field day with the bribery matter like there's no tomorrow! Kamunting, ISA, MSM, etc, etc.....you name it, they will splash the news all over.

Stay strong but be firm.
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written by apanama, May 21, 2009 07:47:45

DEAR PETE. DON'T EVER LET THEM SQUEEZE YOUR BALLS!

THAT'S THEIR MODUS OPERANDI.
DON'T END UP LIKE LEE LAM THYE.
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written by cheekymate, May 21, 2009 07:48:08
A man like no other, principles cut to the bone, no exceptions to the rule.
The nation salutes you, mourns with you and Marina and we all pray that your family will build strength through this extreme circumstance.
I will educate my children to emulate your strength, your nerves of steel.
Shalom.
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written by emcube, May 21, 2009 07:57:59


Assalaamu'alaikum wmwb.

Dear Pete and family, i have children too and can understand your feeling. Your stand a couple of months ago to refuse the offer was indeed a very noble one and expected of a true muslim who is with pure iman and of high integrity. Please go on with the fight against injustice of umno/bn and their crooked companies for the betterment of Malaysia. I wish i can participate in a more meaningful way but am not able to do so at the time being.

This remind me of Tok Guru's case where his son was reported to have wronged a student and Tok Guru did say that if his son is wrong, let the law takes its course. The student's father then fogave Tok Guru's son and did not pursue further.

You both (i believe there are many others too) have successfully walk the talk and following the sunnah of Rasulullaah SAW when he said that even if his daughter Fatimah RA is caught stealing, he will chop off her hand according to Allaah's rule.

Wassalaam.



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written by Forex, May 21, 2009 08:01:12

I watched the final episod of TV series 24 yesterday. The Mother (US President)have to order the Secret service to prison her OWN daughter for a crime she did. Eventhou, She was giving a choice to bury the case or punish her daughter.

She said soemthing like this:

As she was crying " Principles, the public interest is more important than my own family, i've swore to it, to protect the public interest 1st".

Well Done Pete,
But no need to apology.

Hopefully our leader will follow your example to Protect the intergrity of their Power, their principles and the public interest 1st before anything.

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written by emirateswenger, May 21, 2009 08:02:29

No apologies necessary. Do not lose heart. I cannot help but think of the prodigal son. May it be the case. May God himself comfort you and your family.

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written by Malaysia Ku, May 21, 2009 08:10:01

As parents we know it is not easy to do what you did but it is the right thing to do. This time these 'pirates' called for ransom to get your son release, the next call will be payment for this info not to be leaked out and the next will be ...??? The list is endless.. We know it is very painful choice but it is the right one. W know you bro, you will be strong and we will be there with you all the way..

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written by Richfyf, May 21, 2009 08:12:10
Dear Pete,

I salute you for your principle.Thousands if not millions of parents in this country face problems of their children in this world.

The fact that you accept and acknowlage the situation shows that both you and your wife are people who stands on their princepal.

Most people would use their influnce to sweep the situation under the carpet and prevent it from being exposed.

We know for certain that one minister in this country whose son was implicated in murder of one Derek. Somehow or rather his son was aquitted of all charges. And no applogies was made to the parents of the dead person.

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written by technoboy, May 21, 2009 08:13:21

Dear RPK, whatever sacrifices you have made for the nation overrides what your son have done, PDRM being umno's lapdogs is out to embarrass you and your family, this is what they are good at. We will never forget the good deeds you have done by making MT available for sensible Malaysians of all races to share and link up their views and opinion without which 308 results would not have happened. THANK YOU & TAKE CARE! MAY ALLAH/GOD BLESS YOU ALL THE WAY!

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written by smalluncle, May 21, 2009 08:14:14

Heh, Azman is a grown up. at 33, he suppose to teach his young on the moral of life. So, do not be sadden by his behavior.

By not coming to his aid may make him realized his wrongs.
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written by alfchuah, May 21, 2009 08:15:33

Nothing I can say will fully describe what I feel: sorry, sympathy, sadness but more importantly, PROUD - for the bravery and righteousness you and Marina have been standing for. There's a Chinese saying 大义灭亲 - case in point.

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written by Tongkat Pak Ali, May 21, 2009 08:18:47
Brother Pete,

For once, my second eldest son went out of control by becoming ‘Mat Rempit’. ….I brings him to one of Police Station and get the Police permission to let him see how the cell looks like from inside …….After that I brought him to the one of the “Rehabilitation Centre” for the boy and let him look at the high fences surrounding the buildings and one of the officers are kindly giving him some counseling talks……Well, up to now my son becomes the School Prefect, joining Police Cadet Corp and becoming active member in “Nasyid” group………I can’t promise that my son wont becoming bad in the future but what matter most is that I have try my best ……And I believe that You and Your Wife have done your part as a parent the best you can……..And should they didn’t comply than that’s is not your fault but them for failing to appreciate our loves and affections towards them…..

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written by LC Tang, May 21, 2009 08:19:17
Dear RPK,

You could have walked into a trap, a couple of months ago.
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written by LILIN, May 21, 2009 08:20:43

We doa that your son will return to you soon, realizing that you and your wife are the real heroes he is looking for! Ameen!

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written by freerpk, May 21, 2009 08:21:21

He is an adult. He is responsible for his own actions. That is the path he has taken. It is his own choice. God gave us choice to do good or to do evil in his eyes but unfortunately in this world not many people believe in the great CREATOR. We can only pray for these people to turn away from evil. We feel deeply for the pain you have endured.

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written by adan, May 21, 2009 08:21:55
Dear RPK

We share your sadness and we are proud that you view the whole episode cooly.We are sure that in all your righteousness you and your wife would have inculcated the high moral values and social conduct.YOUR OTHER CHILDREN ARE LIVING EXAMLES OF YOUR PARENTAL LOVE AND SUCCESS, Many parents who have lost their' prodigal 'sons to the destructive PEER PRESSURE AND CULTURE understand and share your feeelings.

What this episode has shown is that RPK' WOULD NEVER COMPROMISE HIS PRINCIPLES on the war against corrupttion and abuse of power EVEN IF IT INVOLVESD HIS OWN SON, AND TEH GOOD NAME OF THE FAMILY.

RPK is COMMITTED AND DEDICATED TO THE NOBLE CAUSE OF FIGHTING FOR EUUALITY,FREEDOM AMD JUSTICE FOR ALL.. and tHat nothing in teh world can STOP HIM.He has to look after the intersets of the other members of his LARGE FAMILY... THE 26 MILLION MALAYSIANS.

WE saluate the MAXIM of RPK .'LETNME SUFFER THAT OTHERS MAY LIVE IN PEACE'
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written by Kuku Burung, May 21, 2009 08:24:42
Dear RPK,

You did the right and most honorable thing. If I were you I don't think I can do as you did. Most of us want an easy way out, at the expense of our moral and conscience. You and Marina do not need to apologize to us, as your son failed you, not you fail us. I wish that God will give you strength and wisdom to move forward, as far as your family is concern. I admire your courage and principle.

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written by tmf, May 21, 2009 08:32:23

I left home at age 15 after a violent quarrel with my family, after one year of being a vagabond, I returned home. On that evening of my return, while sleeping on my familiar safe bed in my home, my wish was that when I awoke, it was all a dream.

I cried when I read your posting because it reminded me of the pain I must have inflicted upon my family when I left home 36 years ago.

Dear Sir and Madam, however long he is to be put away, I pray that he will reflect well and repent. Its time to surrender to God in moments like this.

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written by Zym Zym, May 21, 2009 08:36:13

Now I know why my Chinese friends will keep on telling me that it is better to give birth to a "char siew" than having a troubled kid. RPK, we admire your integrity. Keep up the good work.

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written by Krepot, May 21, 2009 08:37:11
It is the path your son has taken,
he is an adult and responsible for what he do.
Life has its bitter moments, we all do.
Move on.
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written by macho, May 21, 2009 08:37:26
The is no need to apologise. Any parents here would understand without you even having to explain. Such is life. Cest La Vie.
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written by kedahan63, May 21, 2009 08:45:47

Dear YM RPK & Marina, my heart goes out to you both, from one parent to another. He had made his choice though no parent,alive or dead, would want to see their offspring in such situation. All sides have made a decision then and now will have to live with it. Blessings to you both.

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written by Celestial, May 21, 2009 08:45:49
Dear Pete

Apologise and grieve if it makes you feel better as it is very much an Asian thing when a family member brings shame to also feel the shame. However, as many has indicated, you cannot be responsible for the actions of another grown man even if he is your son.

Also as others have indicated, the children of many of those in power have done far worst things than your son; the murder of a woman and blowing up of her body springs immediately yo mind. The only difference is that they are not caught yet. Their parents would not have the same principles that you have.

Most of us are not blessed with angelic children growing up and I have my share of a problematic child although not to the extent of your case. I believe it is the Almighty's way of testing us. I must say that you have passed with flying colours. There will be Malaysians that will vilify you but I think the majority will rally behind you and Marina. This Australian is right behind you for you both are a man and woman of principle. When I met you and Marina last year, I sensed this integrity in both of you. I and many others share your pain and by letting you know, I hope it eases the burden of this pain.

Pete and Marina, know that you are indeed blessed by the Almighty as you experience this life journey together. You have touched many people by your words and actions. The love of the people for you both cannot be measured in dollars and sense.

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written by Celestial, May 21, 2009 08:49:17
errata

yo = to
sense = cents
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written by ibabonma, May 21, 2009 08:51:49

RPK, I am in tears. I had a lovely son. Demised. Succumbed to AID. This tells everything. Just like you, we are brave to admit, while accepting that fate has been cruel to us. Dammed.

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written by ibabonma, May 21, 2009 08:52:43
typo: Damned
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written by Ulan Benson, May 21, 2009 08:53:31

Stay strong, we salute you for putting the nation first before your own son. Keep writing and inspire the next generation what is the real meaning of standing up to one's principles.

Don't be like the one who's believe 'his daughter's Gamuda is more important than the Rakyat's rights...and everything is negotiable at a price. Now, even the Consitutions has been made a mockery 'to protect the interests of his daughter!

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written by justinlian, May 21, 2009 08:54:26
Dear RPK,
You have our full respect for doing that.
You have walk your talk and you know very sure it will be a painful steps.

Again, time will ease that pain and Im sure that your son will come to his senses one day. He just need some time on his own to do his thinking and come to his senses.

You will have a very good son in the near future, dont worry.
You have done all the work as a parent and it is not an easy work.
Cheer up and look at the bright side of the world.
Take care.
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written by kingelvis, May 21, 2009 08:57:46
A Parents untimate nightmare but we are liable for our own actions. Bless you Pete and may God bless your family
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written by Bigjoe99, May 21, 2009 08:59:42
My sympathies for you and family including your very lost son.
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written by kingelvis, May 21, 2009 09:01:31

Mind you, the 'settlement' could have been a trap since you're the biggest pain to the cops and getting you to try to bribe the cop would have been a double slap!!

Ooooh that was a close one
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written by Badaksumbu, May 21, 2009 09:04:25
Ya, it hurts RPK is RPK what people know he speaks for. Principle some time can be negotiated but there must also be time that it can’t be negotiated if it is so fundamental.

But what I can say, it could happen to any body. I wouldn’t think RPK and Marina aren’t blamable for what his more than grown up son did. It is just like saying one of our sons, nephews or nieces turn drug edict, and no one wants to fall in that track but it happened. I’m pretty sure RPK wants his kid to behave just like many of us, but it happened. The 32 years of age isn’t like 8-year-old boy, no parent would want to employ curfew for 32 years. Again will never know he would turn something else in the very near future. So this is the world, a stage for everyone.

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written by astina, May 21, 2009 09:04:58

Dear Pete

First of all , i am truly sorry to know about your son's misadventures.May he learn to become a better man .
He must have now realised what it would take for him to come back to your family's fold .

Our MSM may have thought of all the negative image they could have painted on you for this uneasy incident ..but they mistook the fact there is a silver lining in this episode .

You RPK and Pn Marina have manifest to the world the inviolable oath to principle and integrity without fear of favour .

My God be with your family and guide all of you during this testing times...

P/s ..No appology needed actually ..
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written by Badaksumbu, May 21, 2009 09:06:48
Error...typo, what I want to mean RPK and Marina can't be blamed because of his son behviour at this age.
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written by adamckteh, May 21, 2009 09:10:48
RPK, please watch out every step you move, your enemy is using this opportunity to trap you.
Please someone closed to R. Azman please help.
My sympathy to you and your family.
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written by ksmaniam, May 21, 2009 09:12:40

It takes a great man to apologise for something he need not apologise for, and it takes a greater soul not to accept such an apology.

Aren't Malaysians great.

Meanwhile, i would like to make a note, I am a parent too, and although fifth in the family, i occasionaly advise my parents especially regarding my elder brother who is similar as your son, RPK, he has changed, although it took us sometime, with due respect to you and your wife, sir, I believe you should have showered love and show that you love him, for love of a parent can move a child, you should have tried more to bring him back to the right path, sir, I am not a "know it all" but I did experiece it with my brother. It is not too late, shower him with love, love has no bounds, change him, he will change, you must believe that. Even at 32 he still your son. He may be another's wife, but he is still your son. Cummon RPK and Marina, change him, maybe a trifle bit too late but still manageable. Perhaps you may have to only do it after his release, but tell him that upon his return you will be there for him, otherwise I am worried that prison will change him for the worse. However if you are unable to make your presence that you may have to use a 3rd party. I hope you will take my advise (although 2 cents worth) seriously and with good faith.

With love,
maniam
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written by emcube, May 21, 2009 09:13:05


Dear all,

there is a blessing in disguise about this incident. It gives us more bullets and strength to works against the enemies of the state in bn/umno and companies (or whom ever that maybe of the same characters) more effectively.

Vote bn out!!!


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written by Braino, May 21, 2009 09:19:43

As I read, tear started to run down my cheek to know the pain and struggle both of you are going through. As parents it's most painful to see our children go astray. Really, if we have tried our best and if they chose to make their bed that way...they will have to lie on it.

Marina and Pete...no apology needed, you have done what all responsible parents would have done. The price of speaking out for justice is very high and only the brave are willing to venture into this corridors of grievous pain and endless struggle! We share your pain and the unspeakable heartache....

Take care and may the grace and the tender mercies of God be you and your family always.
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written by teo siew chin, May 21, 2009 09:20:04
Dear Yang Mulia Raja Petra and your beloved Marina

There is no need to apologise.
Your son has to complete the path he himself has chosen, whatever the end of the journey brings.
As loving parents, you have done your duty. cukup.
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written by Vince, May 21, 2009 09:20:26

I hope you and Marina will in time "heal" from this incident. As a parent myself, I understand how it feels as I am also very close to my kids. And for that, the nation respect you even more. No matter what others throw at you and Marina now, you can hold your head up "even" higher!

You just set a VERY good examples for the rest of us! I for one always believe in "Leadership by example".
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written by K W Waran, May 21, 2009 09:22:01

Dearest YM RPK and Pn Marina,

Thank you very much for being very steely strong in these most trying of times for there are many battles and the ultimate war to be won, come what may. Most of the MT folks truly and fully understand you both and therefore would not be judgemental at all but rather give you all the moral support that they will definitely give.

As the saying goes, " That every house has a doorway" likewise you are not alone. Many of us too have our respective sad/sob story within the family. Anyway, I do not wish to delve deep into those matters. Suffice to say that you have our undivided support and prayers for God Almighty to bless and protect you, Pn Marina and the entire family, henceforth. Please take care of yourselves, wherever you are.

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written by tuk kentut, May 21, 2009 09:23:05
Dear Raja,
Your way of settle problem is correct.

You let your son settle itself is the best solution. If you pay the police, surely, there will be next time. But when the lesson to the son is given, he will know he is wrong.

I would like to say that, a lot of parents always pay for their son crime, example, Mat Rempit. They buy new motorbike, new.... , when get caught, they pay the bill, than buy a new bike again, mat rempit again.,.....

so if you keep on paying, when will the story end??
But one thing for sure, you have done something good. Keep it up.
We will support your spirits of democracy.

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written by magen, May 21, 2009 09:24:29

Pete Oh Pete dont be discourage dear fellow, Every parents are going what youre experience, I have a son in age of 23 I know what youre going through..No less MAHATMA Ghandi's son also a drungker doest that mean mahatma is Guilty and should be condemed

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written by Frankfurtguy, May 21, 2009 09:26:32
It is very appropriate for RPK to made public apology
He stands firm on his principle
Rakyat Malaysia would respect him even more

RPK did not make any public apology for the Perak crisis as demanded by his royal family ( no apology needed anyway ), because he stands firm on his principle

RPK , Man with principle, I salute you. Malaysians are proud to have you
long live RPK
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written by BennyG, May 21, 2009 09:26:49
Thank for this article. A lot of us were in disbelief prior to this. Thank you again for your family's sacrifices.

We could only imagine the pain that Marina & you may be going through.

Our prayer are with Marina & you.

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written by malaysian, May 21, 2009 09:28:03
Dear Pete,

Your son has been an adult for a long long time now. He is responsible for his own choices and behaviour. You need not offer any apologies for his behaviour because you did no wrong!

I know it is difficult not to blame yourself for 'mistakes' you may have made while raising him during his childhood. Please try to understand - even the recent 'living saint', Mahatma Ghandi, had a disfunctional son! Some children just grow up all wrong! I am speaking from personal experience too.

I have many brothers and sisters. My parents were always very religious. But like many, many families, we had a "black sheep" in the family. Strangely enough, his behaviour improved drasticly when he got into serious trouble with the police one day. They put the fear of god into him. His 'friends' deserted him. He took a steady job and got married. The wife turned out to be the 'dominant' type and kept his behaviour, especially his 'drinking habits' and weight in check!
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written by peace lover, May 21, 2009 09:28:29

Dear Pete & Marina, we, as parents too, understand very well what you are going through. Please stay strong. Your children need you!! We also need you!!

Do not give up on Azman. Given time and re-guidance, Azman will return to his senses, in due course. Our good Lord has his plan for all.

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written by KopiO, May 21, 2009 09:29:51
Dear RPK,
Every family has a hard nut to crack. Hang in there.
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written by pinsysu, May 21, 2009 09:31:58

it's never easy to deal with a black sheep in the family. as parents we raise our kids the best way we can. once they become adults they are on their own. but deep in our hearts we still hope that things would become better some day ...

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written by Surrhead, May 21, 2009 09:33:09
Pete, look at your fingers, they are not of same length.....same goes to a family, as i would see it....anyway, i see RPK's son's case as petty compared to
1. Tun Razak's son
2. Mazri's son
3. Samy Wolu's son
4. and many politician's son
SO, KEEP WALKING THE WALK, MAN and Marina, peace be with you and your family always...
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written by Comodo, May 21, 2009 09:33:20
Dear RPK and Puan Marina,

No Apologies needed. Your son is not a kid anymore; they’re on their own feet.

If you need to apologies for your son fault, I can’t imagine what the parents of umno/bn culprits have to do for their children’s sins???
Personally I feel you are really great for being truthful.

May God be with you.
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written by teo siew chin, May 21, 2009 09:33:46
And to think the police has the audacity to even consider bribing YOU !!!
They are sooooooo dumb - gosh, what kind of police schools accept idiots as students?
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written by Ben, May 21, 2009 09:36:21

Boss, apologies not necessary. You have done no wrong instead you have shown how a father should treat a rebellious child although the pain is no lesser. Such has been the sacrifice you had to make to walk the talk unlike our more infamous fathers who twist and bend every law to sweep their son's transgressions under the carpet. We salute you for standing up for what you believe in and we pray you will be blessed with the return of your prodigal son into your loving arms.

We pray he will return to God and ask for forgiveness for his transgressions for He is able and merciful to save him. Father in heaven have mercy and forgive Raja Azman as he contemplate his fate in the hands of the courts. Give him the grace to accept his punishment as he repent and guide him back to You. We ask Lord you bless his family and comfort them. Give them the peace and joy in knowing that you are with them and Raja Azman. As iron shapes iron, man shapes man, You will be their strength and grace. Amen.

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written by Malaysian Heart, May 21, 2009 09:40:25
Dear RPK & Mrs.,

Surah Al-Inshirah

In the name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Merciful
Have We not expanded thee thy heart?-
And removed from thee thy burden
The which did gall thy back?-
And raised high the esteem (in which) thou (art held)?
So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief:
Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.
Therefore, when thou art free (from thine immediate task), still labour hard,
And to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention.
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written by educationist, May 21, 2009 09:40:36
We bring a child into this world without knowing what the future holds for the child.

Most of us try to bring up or children as upright useful citizens of the nation.

When the child deviates from the straight and narrow path, the hearts of most parents can only cry in anguish.

But in most instances, the parents cannot be faulted!
The child is responsible and accountable for his actions.
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written by agadam magadam, May 21, 2009 09:43:27
Dear Marina and Pete,
Our support is with you and Family... You did the right thing..
Just carry on with what you've been doing.... We are all with you..

GOD IS WITH YOU AND FAMILY as well.... Your support has grown, and is growing.

90% of Malaysians are with you..

The PDRM dogs will use this over and over again, but fcuk them.. WE ALL KNOW..

GOD BLESS PETE AND FAMILY...
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written by fireduck, May 21, 2009 09:44:43

Leaving home to be alone in the harsh world at age 14 or so, must have been tough on Raja Azman. No doubt he was responsible for doing that to himself, but on hindsight, perhaps he could have been helped more along the way. Giving up on him just like that, and at such young teenage years, was probably tough on him. I'm sure there were heartaches on both sides, and there must have been many moments of anguish upon reflection of the situation.

I'm not here trying to admonish anyone, least of which would be, Pete and Marina. I do feel their pain but I try to understand how their son would have felt too. There had to be many moments where the emptiness and the wretchedness of his streetlife made him want to go back home. If only, in those moments of 'weakness', someone or a kind samaritan had reached out and helped him .....

We are talking of Raja Azman because he's Pete and Marina's son. But there are many out there, nameless ones, who went through the same path. Young girls running away from home, thinking it's the best decision they have ever made for their young life. Only to end up as prostitutes and drug addicts. If I may second guess here, perhaps people like Raja Azman (and probably being a chip off the block) couldn't overcome their stubbornness and/or ego, admit their mistakes and seek forgiveness from their parents, and then return home. And then their whole life may have turned out differently.

As parents, I understand the need to be firm, but the inner love will never be diminished. I hope the family does not 'abandon' him, in spite of the fact that his case is being highlighted so widely in the MSM (probably with some ulterior political motive behind it). One way is to reconnect with him via his siblings. Siblings can get through where parents can't. I know.

I hope the authorities will not be using Raja Azman as a pawn in the4 political game to get to Pete, but treat him like any others, and offer him the necessary rehabilitation while undergoing his punishment. And I do appreciate Pete and Marina's sacrifices. I hope Raja Azman realizes his follies one day and come to his senses and be reunited with his family.

On a lighter side, Parenting is a tough job. And the kids will never kow until they themselves become one. But by then, we become Grandparents and we take revenge on them by spoiling our grandkids.

"No, you can't have that"
"But Grandpa said I can"
"I said, 'NO!'"
"Waaaah!"
"Aw .... come here, Grandpa will give you just a small one ..."
"Pop!, you're spoiling him!" smilies/cheesy.gif
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written by sydput, May 21, 2009 09:47:19
We need a celtic PM to save the nation!
The one whose dreams will never be fulfilled by remaining in the sideline as a political and govenrment critic.
Najib did a worse crime than your son by threatening to harm minorities, citizen of his own country.
Anwar dare no confront the religious and ketuanan melayu types, preffering to remain silent when issues cropped up.

Badawi forgot about reforms after he married Jeanne. He also forgot that he was the PM.

Despite accolades given by Ku Li, my personal opinion is that KJ has shown no leadership substance. He is more of a "sneek attacker", taking advantage of his position for personal gains in terms of wealth and fame.
Rafidah could have been the PM, but has not gone for the kill.
Lee Liong Sik? That would have been more than a match for Lee Kuan Yew in term of size and stature. He wins hands down in karaoke singing and whiskey guzling contest.
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written by Richard Lo, May 21, 2009 09:47:24
RPK, which parent will not be hurt by the misconduct of their children especially when they have a brush with the law. Now that your son is an adult he has to be accountable for his own action. He cannot be so immature that when he has a brush with the law he comes crying to you and your wife as your son but when he wants to live his own life he is an adult.

You don't owe us an apology but it is your son who owes you and your wife an apology. We salute you and your wife for practising what you have preached and have not succumb to greasing the system to solve your problem. We will hold you and your family up in prayers.

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written by pillars, May 21, 2009 09:47:42

Dear YM RPK and Marina,

No apologize needed. I believe we all have our own paths. Not all the paths are the same. Its the mystery of life.

Wish we all can learn something of your story.
God bless your family.
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written by cruzeiro, May 21, 2009 09:48:37
No need for apologies, Pete - although I understand how you feel as a parent.
Parents often feel responsible for the faults of their children, because their judgement is clouded by emotions.
Human being are such that they have this capacity to respond to circumstances differently. Where some see opportunity, others may see doom. Where some see reason, others see pain.

It takes a strong parent to realize that it isn't their fault if others in the family did respond well to the environment provided. You did your duty as a parent, holding on to principles - and that is what matters. "Bailing-out" a family member, sometimes it may be the setting for greater pain in the future.

As painful as it may be, what you did was probably the right thing to do.
God Bless you, Pete.
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written by sukinong, May 21, 2009 09:50:37
You have given your best. I know you would also give up your life to save him. But there is always a silver lining from this experience in the future.

My prayers to Raja Azman to be strong and repentant in facing the consequences of his action. My dad used to say, the parent can take care of many children but many children cannot take care of the parents. Painfully it is true.

You have given your best.
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written by AO Musa, May 21, 2009 09:52:36
Dear RPK,

I feel like watching movie. I never knew you are this strong. If you ask me, I dont think i can even come closer to you when comes such situation.

Salutes for you and this make me more respects on you...
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written by puakang, May 21, 2009 09:52:50
Dear Sir,
In situation like this, we shall be able to see the true colours of people. The real them. It is such a great feeling to see you emerging majestically from this sad episode. It may be sad but it showcased to the world.. "you are, what we think you are; a great man"
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written by mountainking, May 21, 2009 09:56:24
Dear RPK and Marina

I understand exactly how you felt when i did those things in my early days and my parents were totally devastated. it's not your fault, you have done what you could and it's for your son to wake up. i hope Raja Azman to know that he has hope for what he has done. i used to do but my parents have too forgiven me on:

a. involved in gangsterism and fights. fren died in fight
b. illegal racing and stole motorbike. bribed 2 police officers for me be let off.
c. broke into ppl's house and school to destroy some property

Believe in God and He will save Azman out of all this. that's the very same reason how i have gotten out from the mess.
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written by Ken Chong, May 21, 2009 09:58:34
No need for apologies. Firstly, its your son's mistake not yours or MArina. he's a grown up and is responsible for what he does. This shows that we're all just humans and are prone to doing the wrong things. We just hope Raja Azman would learn from this and be a better person after this.
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written by bikerzon, May 21, 2009 10:01:15
No apologies needed. Your son is old enough to make his own decision. He did his mistakes and now he have to face the consequences. It is a just rule.
Just pray that once he serve up his terms, he can "taubat".

Bless you and your family. God speed.
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written by Liberace, May 21, 2009 10:02:11
Unfortunately, our children don't always turn out to be responsible people. As parents we can only teach them as best as we know how and then hope and pray. In the end, everyone makes his own choices in life and while it may bring us pain, we must release them. Yet while he lives, there is yet hope for your son.
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written by malaysianohope, May 21, 2009 10:06:55
Abang & Kak Marina,
It pains me that you had to do what you had to do but a right decision at that & I certainly share your griefs as I'm a parent myself, to see your blood & flesh being incarcerated.
This shameless PDRM who asked for bribes from you are are truly scum of the earth as if its in their SOP. My family shall pray for Raja Azman to realise his mistake & turn over a new leaf with GOD's grace.
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written by DontPlayGod, May 21, 2009 10:07:12
Dear RPK, which family does not have a black sheep in the family? It's because you're high profile that the police and umno will make use of this to attack you. But we all know that you are a man of principles, and readers like us are mature and savvy enough to understand the facts of life. After all your son is just another individual with his own soul and mind. He is another indivdual in the eyes God, and he alone will answer to HIM, and not to you.
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written by nafis, May 21, 2009 10:08:17

Salam dear Pete

Not my position to give any advice because you know a lot more better than me, but it is my belief that Allah akan menguji manusia yang Dia Kasihi dan Sayangi...

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written by ananthprabagar, May 21, 2009 10:08:18
KARMA... that's all.
"arise awake and stop not till the goal is reached - Swami Vivekananda"
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written by gorshan, May 21, 2009 10:09:54
no matter what, a son is still a son. sometimes parents has to swallow their pride and be the first to do the reaching out.maybe what this he is what he is waiting for all these while.no matter what, when the prodigal son return,parents will jump for joy and held big feast. we pray your son will repent too and returns home soon. smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/grin.gif smilies/angry.gif
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written by goman2k3, May 21, 2009 10:10:10
Dear Pete & Marina,
We are all parents and we all understand. We have children and we hope they will grow up as we think they will. We gave our best but sometimes they have the mind of their own. We wish them to be this and that but we never know. What we know is what we can control and we all know you both have tried you best. You gave it all and you were not tempted. We all hope that he will learnt his lesson and turn to a new leave and this will shock him to reality.
I appreciate what you have done for our beloved country and the sacrifice that both of you have given for our land. Who would have spoken up against the umno and open up the debate on what is islamic and not islamic.
You change the whole thinking of the rakyat both malay and non malay and open up their eyes. History will always remember you and your family huge sacrifice. I salute you.

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written by Taikonot, May 21, 2009 10:11:58
As far as I am concern, when he/she qualified to vote in GE, he/she is 100% solely responsible for his/her own actions.

Which parents doesn't their child to be good? Its the parents who suffered and grieved the most when their child turned bad.

The apology should come from your son, Mr.RPK.
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written by Huador, May 21, 2009 10:12:33
Listen RPK and Marina.

This old song is for the nation to ponder.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLGC7MmEIyo&feature=related
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written by advocatusdiaboli, May 21, 2009 10:12:48
Dear Mr & Mrs RPK, I understand the pain parents go through for the sake of their children. Don't give up on your son. He may be rebellious, stubborn and so on but there is still a soft spot for parents in his heart and which he knows deep inside him. Talk to him. This is from one parent to another.
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written by clusco, May 21, 2009 10:14:49
RPK,

He's old enough to be man... Hope what happen this time would change him to be a real man...
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written by Umar Rentaka, May 21, 2009 10:19:10
One who is equal to friends and enemies, who is equipoised in honor and dishonor, heat and cold, happiness and distress, fame and infamy, who is always free from contaminating association, always silent and satisfied with anything, who doesn’t care for any residence, who is fixed in knowledge and who is engaged in devotional service—such a person is very dear to Me. [Bhagavad Gita 12.18-19]

Note: Silence does not mean being quiet. It means "not speaking nonsense". Silence means speaking the Truth.
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written by Saint, May 21, 2009 10:20:16
Dear RPK and Marina,
No apologies needed. Nearly every family has a black sheep.
And each of us do have a family and have experienced what you are going through.
Decisions can be made by the mind but the heart lingers on, and that is why we are humans. May God bless you all.

Just one last word. What both of you had with the police was NOT negotiations but pure BLACKMAIL. There is no end if we give in to blackmail; for people who blackmail are not humans. Humans negociate only with humans, not with animals in human form. What both of your did was right, though the pain will linger for a long, long time. Have the stamina to carry on for Time heals all wounds.
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written by CSum, May 21, 2009 10:20:56
Dear Pete, no apology needed. We are with you no doubt.
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written by anban, May 21, 2009 10:24:07
Hi RPK,

First of all, you do not owe anyone an apology. He is ur son but he is an adult too. firstly its unfair for a son to be burdened by his parents mistakes, likewise its not fair for parents to bear the burden of an adult son.

however your atricle emphasised the fact that you walk the talk...thus it increases my respect to you as a man with principles.

to those who might chide you as a bad parent for not bringing up your son in a proper manner, this is waht i have to say to them...pls look at your own backyard before talking about others. after all, its called law of karma, what u talk you will get back...
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written by MahendranV, May 21, 2009 10:24:13
Hi Pete
So far you've been talking about a Mother's love for her son. I think your own love for Raja Azman is something you need to share about. Although on the outside you may seem tough, deep down you know how much you wish you could have done more.
My heart is also for a father who has to put up a brave front, not just for the community but also for the family, the wife.
Stand strong Pete, with your head high - you have done a brave thing, commendable.
Hats off to you.
Raja Azman will come out stronger, wiser. And when he does, you will be there for him, again.
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written by Smiles21, May 21, 2009 10:26:20
Dear Brother RPK,

"As a father, it was a most difficult choice I had to make. .... We knew we had to bite the bullet and face whatever lies ahead of us without wavering.

Marina and I apologise to the nation for what our son has done. As parents, Marina and I accept that responsibility."

That's the price one has to pay for going against the establishment. Tetapi sekiranya kita benar-benar jujur ikhlas dalam penghidupan dan perjuangan kita sebagai seorang Islam, percayalah segalanya akan menjadi rahmat dan penawar hidup pada suatu hari nanti. Cuma harus bersabar dan yakin kepada Allah s.w.t.

Ingatlah kisah Nabi Nuh yang gagal menyelamatkan anaknya sendiri kerana anaknya engkar mengikuti nasihatnya. Kalau seorang nabi gagal apalah kita sebagai manusia biasa. Yang penting kita sudah menyempurnakan sedayanya kewajipan kita sebagai seorang bapa.

Yes, my brother. It is much easier to say than to do. Tetapi seorang pejuang sejati tidak akan menggadai maruahnya.


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written by TruthSayer, May 21, 2009 10:36:55
I made it very clear there would be no negotiations. How can I agree to bribing police officers to get my son off the hook after speaking out against crime, corruption, abuse of power and cover-ups of criminal acts by those who walk in the corridors of power?


Sir,
I salute you for your stand.
What need is there for an apology? Your son's actions are not yours.
You have also avoided what could have been a trap for you.
Had you chosen to bribe the officer, you could have been arrested for bribery and thus locked away for a long time.

Once again, I thank you for the sacrifice you are making for our country Malaysia.

God bless You RPK
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written by wongnoball, May 21, 2009 10:38:08
Dear RPK,

I have two children, both are in their early 30s. I appreciate you and Marina know what is love but not blinded by love. I have more respect on you after reading your above article. Please send my regard to Marina.
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written by AhSeng, May 21, 2009 10:38:25
Do not give up on your son.
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written by farah, May 21, 2009 10:41:24
Dear YM RPK, i wanted to 'hear' from you. Thanks with tears. Please stay there strong for us always.
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written by pelukis, May 21, 2009 10:52:07
Ku Petra,
I have the same problem...i don't have a son,but it's about my DAUGHTER. Be strong..it's an "ujian" from the Al Mighty. "Tiap2 yang beriman pasti akan di uji oleh Nya"...or in other sense "if you claimed that you are 'beriman', for sure Allah will test you"...for your betterment.To test us in order we shall go higher up in status or upgrade our status..or down grade us. May Allah bless our family..Amin.
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written by Alice, May 21, 2009 10:52:38
Children are blessings from God and parents are responsible in moulding them. However when children become too difficult to mould than we pray to God and ask God to intervene and help the difficult child.So RPK as parents you and Marina should pray for this child. Even the darkest cloud has a silver lining.

Good to hear from you anyway. Take care
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written by amjoem, May 21, 2009 10:54:32
Dear YM Pete,
The Grace of the Lord Almighty is always with You, Marina and upon all your five children. I am also a parent and I also know of the many problems we as parents face in the upbringing of our children. You will be upset and disturbed nevertheless we also have to do all that need to be done. Raja Azman is your son and he is in dire need of help in two particular areas, namely, legal aid and psycological help. After all every Bangsa Malaysian is your friend. Take me personally, you & Marina have not only helped me & my wife but you have given my wife a life to live. Just say it brother, we will get the help across to Raja Azman. The bloggers' fraternity is always with you and Marina. May Peace reign in your heart. We love you.
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written by ATSaari, May 21, 2009 10:56:35
Dear Pete,
There is no need for an apology. I know you have tried your best to raise Raja Azman, just like all the other parents who struggled and strived and even suffered to raise their own. No parent would abandon this responsibities.

But sometime shits like this happen, not only to you but to millions of other parents too. You are blessed with five children and like what you said four have made their live of their own, successfully, that will make you an 80% success. To be 80% success is not an easy feat in today's parenting. I was not blessed with 5 children like you, I only have 1 beautiful girl. My challenge is that, either I make a 100% success or 100% failure.

Raja Azman is not a total failure yet, so never give up. What we can do now is to continue with our prayers for God to one day show him the true path into a more meaningful righteous live.

Our prayers is with you.
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written by latihanQ, May 21, 2009 11:01:30
Dear RPK, like all parents, it is painful to see our children trip. It would be great he can pick himself up on his own. While we offer words of encouragement we also know ultimately it will be entirely up to him how he chose to live. Indeed it is his life he is living, not ours.
Is that also not how our parents helped us grow by giving us the right to determine our paths when it was time?
We cannot deny him that same opportunity. He is your child but he is not A child anymore.
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written by ultraman, May 21, 2009 11:03:29
RPK and Marina,
Both of you are made of sterner stuff.
My heart aches for both of you. Indeed your son might be on the wrong side of the law. As a father to two children, I believe that Raja Azman is still your son no matter what evil deed he had done.
Truly you lived up to your principles and you did the right thing to refuse giving bribes.
But at least try to find a lwayer for him to mitigate the case for him.
Upon his release, please take him back and try to rehabilitate him. Give him some meaningful training i a skill.
Justlike you, I believe he is just as intelligent and if not more than you.
HELP HIM AFTER HE ALL IS OVER. ALL IS NOT LOST.
GOD BLESS YOU AND ALL!
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written by Whatif, May 21, 2009 11:04:51
Dear Pete and Marina,

I have faith that your prodigal son would return to the family one day. Stay strong and true to our Malaysian cause. Let your boy do some soul searching and pray he finds the wisdom to do the right thing after he comes out.

Peace.
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written by crayon, May 21, 2009 11:06:15
Raja Azman needs to be punished. He has chosen this lifestyle, he has hurt others from his action, and so it is only fair he gets punished by law. I salute your action of standing by your principles - do not feed the pigs with bribery. If you do, you will be blackmailed by this action for the rest of your life.
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written by whlau, May 21, 2009 11:08:41
What can I say... I know your apology is to the nation, and the nation also involves me, but there is absolutely no need for the apology, well at least to me anyway.

To cut a long story short, we, ie, my family sincerely accept your apology, if you insist you owe us an apology, (although we still insist that no apology is necessary here) with our heartfelt wishes that you will continue to be strong for the sake of your family, no matter what the circumstances.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words, they don't hurt me
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written by panca, May 21, 2009 11:09:27
Bro Pete and Sis Marina,

All parents love their children and when their children land into trouble, this pains the hearts. Each to their own way of solving and expressing love but your principle did not fail you. Many parents would have taken an easy way too. Not many parents are as brave and courageous as both of you to show love in most difficult way, we hope Raja Azman will grow up and be better through the teacher of time and harshness.

We understand your ground as parents. No apologies are needed.


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written by Susanna, May 21, 2009 11:13:53
Instead of sending him to prison, why not send to Malaysian care? A rehabilitation from bad habits will do much more good than keeping him lock up with bad company. He may have gone off the road but prodigals also will come to their senses one day and come home. Since he got your caring genes, there is hope that he will wake up to his senses one day and repent of his wayward ways.
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written by densemy, May 21, 2009 11:18:59
Its a pity some other muslims of note couldnt be more honourable about the dirty linen in their closets
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written by Rozlan, May 21, 2009 11:19:08
Dear RPK,

YOU and kak Marina made the right stand.I understand your feeling.No matter what you and your family cannto help feeling sad with the unfortunate inciddent.Nothing much we could do except praying to AlMighty to turn him into new leaf

Anyway you had just exposed again another police corruption.Imagine they always negotiating with the criminals for their release.No wonder the police hardly caught the crime big brothers.Those people have money and willing to pay their way.Maybe A.Kugan a small time criminal dont have the right anount of money.
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written by Melgy, May 21, 2009 11:20:07
Dear Pete and Marina,

I'm offering my moral support to you and your family.
The way you express and has given yourself unselfishly.
I read with tears as I can understand the pain and hurt.
Losing a son is never easy.

A big salute to you and ur family.
BE strong.
Nothing pains a parent like a child in pain.

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written by acks160, May 21, 2009 11:22:02
Kak Marina/RPK,

Be strong! The country understands your anguish acutely! May God Bless you and yours abundantly!
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written by nextgyouth, May 21, 2009 11:22:57
Dear RPK and Madam Marina, both of you have done what your principles have called for, and the rest of us have plenty to learn from you both.

Honestly, many of us would've taken the easy way out when faced with a situation like this, but the whole point is you're not like many of 'us', and that's why so many us find inspiration in what you and Marina do. We aspire to your principles though we know that sometimes we cannot fulfill it.

PS Nothing to be ashamed of. No one's life is perfect, only God is.
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written by hiiijack, May 21, 2009 11:29:30
Praise the Lord,May God bless you and family.I offer my prayers to your son too and may God bless and guide him too.
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written by miracle, May 21, 2009 11:31:14
i felt for you and marina.... No apologies needed. take care and keep on fighting for the rakyat... smilies/smiley.gif
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written by johnnie, May 21, 2009 11:31:25
Dear Pete and Marina,
I know how it must have pained you to do what you to. Afterall this is still your fresh and blood. it is not easy to forget and forsake your child no matter what he/she have done
I admired your standing. I am not sure if I will be able to do what you do had I been in the same situation. People tend to take the easy way out, especially when it concern their reputation, family name etc.
Be strong we are with you and keep you in our prayers.
shalom.
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written by JUST, May 21, 2009 11:32:49
YM RPK and Marina,
Be strong and take care!
GOD Bless You and Family!
Let's pray Tomorrow Will Be Better!

< http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fg4vhC99zQQ >
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written by SoloMan, May 21, 2009 11:33:31
Dear Pete,

You have done brilliantly with your other 4 children. I want to congratulate you and Marina for raising 4 citizens of the nation who will lead extraordinary lives because they have been raised by extraordinary parents. May God continue to bless and protect you both.
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written by 1six5, May 21, 2009 11:36:29
RPK...remember these words...the old saying used to be "A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND

but this is what my father taught me instead...A HARD MAN IS GOOD TO FIND

be well n well wishes...no more kow-towing to advocacy
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written by timberguy, May 21, 2009 11:37:51
RPK, may God Almighty bless you. It takes a true man to behave and react the way you do. You are in no way responsible for your child who is almost 40 years old. We pray for your son to realize his own mistakes and misguided ways, but that has nothing to do with Marina and you. All the best, stay strong, the nation is with you! Hidup RPK!
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written by Admiral Tojo, May 21, 2009 11:41:08
Pete, you do not have to apologize on behalf of another adult. Good on you for being a principled person. If there is anything that we can do to assist please let us know. At least your wayward son is not like the wayward son of Tun Razak, a bigger thief and implicated in Murder too.

Shalom
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written by penangboi, May 21, 2009 11:44:43
You have done the absolutely right thing.

We are answerable to our actions individually. One does wrong and one has to face the music. Finding the easy way out is never never the solution no matter how tempting it is.

I have not lost a grain of respect I have of you regardless of what your son has done. He is a grown up and it's his own business.

I, however, cannot say the same of that guy whose son was caught red-handed by the Australian custom for possessing child pornography and claimed that it's okay because everybody has such things.

And I also cannot say the same of Najis's son and Nazri's son who were caught on camera in compromising situation with half-naked women.

At least RPK, you have the courage to face the fact, but to those high-and-mighty holier-than-thou umnoputras it is 'acceptable' and infact the fathers are even worse culprits. You can't get any worse than C-4ing a human being.

Carry on RPK. No probs with me at all.
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written by lampard, May 21, 2009 11:48:14
Dear Pete,
Yet again, you put tears on my eyes.... I am sorry. You are so strong in will, if I am at your position, I would have succumb to the circumstances. This event, sir, made me respect and love you more......
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written by Running Sardines, May 21, 2009 11:49:44
Dear Pete

You don't owe me any apology. Your son's trangressions have nothing to do with you or your beloved wife, Marina. After all, we are living in an era whereby it is IMPOSSIBLE to make sure our children to grow up to become 'obedient' citizens. As parent, I can only guide and teach my children the basic about truth, honesty, responsibilities, commitments etc. (all the good values). But once they approached adulthood (18 yrs and above), it is all their own choices then. That is what human life is all about too, making choices between the good and bad.

Do not give up on your son though and I pray he will one day come to his senses and beg for forgiveness from you and your wife.

Thank you for being a light for us Malaysian.

I am very nervous here about the hearing at the Court of Appeal for Perak today and I hope the judges too will make the right choice, that is to reinstate Nizar. And then it should be back to the people for the final say
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written by picadilly, May 21, 2009 11:49:54
TO RPK: Dear RPK, Now you are making decision like Mahatma Gandhi.

Gandhi had the same problem like you. He had 4 sons and none were alike.
none could live the live of principles like Gandhi.

of the 4 , the eldest blamed his father for all his life miseries,
This son later became a drunkard, a thief and also ended up in jail many times.
He even changed his name to Mohammad Gandhi to spite his father and provoke him.
But Gandhi Never faltered , he had a bigger mission in life.
This son of his watched his father's funeral procession from a tree far away as a common criminal. Nothing gandhi could do would stop him. Is it Gandhi's failure?
Gandhi's son died the same year as gandhi due to liver failure toxicity of alcohol.

When his 2nd son was caught for a problem, he banished his son to South Africa where they lived and told him to stay there until this guy repents..
Till today descendents of Gandhi live in South Africa because of this 2nd son.

Its not easy to be a person with princple, especially with own family.
Mind may be clear but hearts will hurt and in the end the truth will win.

you are our Gandhi!
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written by ttwangsa, May 21, 2009 11:51:26
Dear RPK and Marina,

As parent, I feel very small and humble with what you have gone through. Because I know deep inside me I will not be able to do as what you did if the same thing happen to me.

I can consider myself as a person with strong characters, but when come to matter affecting my children future, I will do everything possible to ensure they are out of troubles. I will use every cent I have to ensure they have good education and hopefully will end up be a responsible citizen.

However, sometimes we just could understand why they choose the wrong path. It was really heart breaking and how we are so helpless. In the end, we start blaming ourselves for whatever bad happen to our children. That is the burden of being a parent.

It takes a real man to admit his mistakes and face the music. But it takes a great man to do what you did and stand firm on your principles. You have set the highest standard on morality, integrity and principle, which will make us proud to be Malaysian.

So far, no Malaysian leaders in the government of the day have come close to your integrity.

If they have the urge to talk about morality, just tell them straight to their coxks to go and fly kites.

Stay safe wherever you are , my dear RPK.
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written by Wave33, May 21, 2009 11:54:31
This is the most difficult part of life...

"Walking The Talk"

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written by ROBERTNGTG, May 21, 2009 12:00:49
We knew it was with dire consequences that we had turned down the offer to settle the matter. We would be made to pay dearly for our stubbornness. They would make sure that we would suffer shame never before suffered by our family.

RPK, WE FEEL THE PAIN U, YR WIFE AND FAMILY UNDERGO. OUR HEARTS ARE WITH YOU.
MAY THE JAIL TERM BE A GOOD TEACHER FOR THE SON TO LEARN THE HARD WAY AND BECOME
A BETTER PERSON. WE PRAY FOR THAT. BUT U MUST TAKE CARE AND NEVER BE INTIMIDATED
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written by Henry, May 21, 2009 12:01:50
Dear brother Pete, I know how you and your wife feel. Due to some misunderstanding between my wife and me, my youngest son felt so upset and refused to complete his secondary schooling and today non of us know what he is doing. I tried to locate him and when found tried to get him to stay with me. He refused. I never give up and pray that one day he would come to his senses. I hope some one out there can help Raja Petra. Not only pray for Raja Azman but offer some sort of councelling to help Raja Azman sort out his life. Bro Pete is already on high waters for our sake therefore we ought not to trouble him. We should help him out. Therefore I appeal to those who are trained in counselling and pyscology please come forward to help. I also appeal to lawyers to help to defend or mitigate his jail sentence. If money is the reasong let start a fund running. Just make a post on this web and we will response. God bless and help Raja Azman and his family God also protect and help bro Pete in his coming hearing.
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written by Lyon, May 21, 2009 12:09:25
Dear RPK,
I truly feel for you. You did right when the police called you. No apologies needed because you are not the cause, its our society, our environment, our govt and many more.

Just imagine if all parents are required to apologise for the 'misdeeds' of their offsprings, then the parents of many of those in power in our country would have to offer their apologies.

Have compassion for your son and keep faith in God.

Cheers mate.
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written by jonestation, May 21, 2009 12:24:27
Pete;
There is nothing you need to appologize for this issue..
Your firm stand on the situation make you a stronger man than ever.
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written by Traveller2020, May 21, 2009 12:25:21
Dear Marina and Pete,
I feel your pain as I read through your message.At his darkest hour he needs your care and love....perhaps this is his defining moment.There are a lot of miracles and come back stories...and yours will be one of them.If you can rehabilitate him and just like Pakatan Rakyat's journey of discovery and managing the 5 Pakatan states....your task is just as challenging.If you succeed it would be the best victory over your nemesis and your foes.
Stay the course.
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written by Conan Chung, May 21, 2009 12:26:59
Yo Pete, damn this time u almost made "smoke gets in my eyes".And why the apologies man! We all know the son and father are 2 separate entity so how does the actions of the son relates to a father's. This is the part where the proverb "Like Father like Son" DOES NOT apply.

Already you are suffering by the predicament your son is in. And if Raja Azman isn't your son, this wouldn't even reach the newspaper. But they attempted to sally your name and add salt to the injury. What they did not know is Malaysians (most of them) have a brain and can think for themselves.

This is a hard time for you and Marina and all i can offer you is my sincere thanks for everything you have done. It is hard and when u do get over it, please continue what you do best.

Maybe in your lifetime, you won't achieve what you are trying to accomplish but nevertheless, you are the founding father, the initiator and the one who I believe started it all. So don't you feel that your life is for nothing nor the choices you made are wrong. You have walked the talk that most people in the world couldn't and still you're at it. And for that you are "special". True, Malaysians are a forgetful lot but there are somethings you just don't forget.

Live on and Prosper
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written by slash n burn, May 21, 2009 12:27:21
May knowing you're
in the hearts and thoughts of others
help you and yours
through this time of sorrow.

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written by apanama, May 21, 2009 12:27:52
DEAR PETE,
your boy left home 18 years ago.
REPEAT. 18 years ago. i share your pain.
but in his 18 years of wayward life on the streets,
NAJIZ and POLIZ could/would have nailed him along the way.
but for them to spring this on you today is just a convenient trap.
THEY HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES.

but any sensible magistrate or judge knows that this is PETTY offenses.
NOT CAPITAL OFFENSES like murder.
I SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN PRAYERS.



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written by JJFoo, May 21, 2009 12:29:37
Glade you saw things the way you did. Enlighten one. As a father, I share your pain. Salvation and enlightenment are to be found through different paths, most the time it’s of our own choices but many of time it’s not. All things happen for a reason. Take care.
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written by snailriver, May 21, 2009 12:30:26
Chief,

No apology is required as its not your fault...if your 32 years old son choose his destiny, that is his responsibility and fate...no one should be blamed for another person's action

My heart feels your's and Marina's pain. Please stay strong and move ahead

See and walk through all the obstacles in life... you are a man of principle and thats why you are our beloved RPK...nothing can change that

Take care and remember dharma ( righteous principle ) will always wins in the end...it may take time but good always prevails

God is with you and he is giving you this test for your soul to progress...test is only for who deserves and for those who has love of God

We love you and our prayers with you and your family always
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written by Navigator, May 21, 2009 12:38:51
As a father, I know how you feel, RPK. Not all our children will be successful or good. Each is an independent person with his own mind and we can only hope they will learn to become responsible citizens.

Don't worry about the news reports. umno is trying to shame you on a matter that you have no control over. We know who you are and what you stand for. Our greatest respects for you.
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written by SamSan, May 21, 2009 12:42:18
Dear RPK,

I share your feelings at this very painful and excruciating moment. I understand that no five fingers are the same. Allah has put so many obstacles in ones path not to create just pain and suffering but to learn from it all and heighten our consciousness. What you have steadfastly stood for is noble but painful. This is something that the AMENO leaders and their children and cronies would not understand. For AMENO and bn everything has a prize and everything can be bought at a price. So aggrandizing ill gotten syaitan money, wealth and power is more important to AMENO / bn rather than following the noble footsteps of beloved Nabi Muhammad (p.b.u.h). Pete, just like Tok Guru Nik Aziz, you and marina are trying to emulate the footsteps of our beloved Nabi Muhammad and I understand that it is no easy task. May Allah Allmighty give you and your family the courage, willpower and wisdom to tread this difficult path tha that only the pure,brave and noblest among souls can tread and may it serve as an illuminating beacon to all of us mortals who have not been able to remove the shackles of fear deeply embedded within us by years of indoctrination by the evil Syaitan forces working under the guise of corrupt to the core, blatantly abusive and warped AMENO / bn leadership. Pete, I just all the majority peace loving and truth and justice seeking Malaysian is praying for you and your family in these troubled times of the end of the Dark Ages.
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written by BGs, May 21, 2009 12:42:26
Dear RPK, deep down I knew you would write something like this in keeping with your principles. Raja Azman is a grown up man & should be responsible for his actions. Your apologies are not needed! Having said that, Raja Azman's current troubles would still be like stabs in your heart. Parents would be parents & who would not cry for their own flesh & blood? Hopefully prayers & time would heal your pain. Be strong & God bless you & your family.
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written by Midvalley, May 21, 2009 12:45:47
My hero RPK I cried when I read your apology, because I too have a son like you and I believed out there in this world 90% of parent face similar problems with their children. At least you have dinity not those minister's son who murdered someone's son and still enjoying his life freely.
Don't worry my hero you are not alone and it not ashame. Keep up the good works and vote be end out
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written by Milo, May 21, 2009 12:51:51
Our support for you after your personal sacrifice to the nation should never be forgotten whatever your son does. Anyway, glad to hear the whole story.
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written by malsia1206, May 21, 2009 12:52:29
Come what may, Allah shall be our final Judge in what we do in our lifetime. All else is secondary. No mortal shall avoid the final judgment and we need to get our act together to walk the righteous path.
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written by 2edgedsword, May 21, 2009 12:58:24
When children grow up, they have a mind of their own. Some reject parental advice and want to find out things for themselves. Some do well, some badly. Giving freedom to our children is a supreme act of love. Parents need not apologize not feel guilty, for acting out of love.
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written by shamadz72, May 21, 2009 13:00:48
"I made it very clear there would be no negotiations. How can I agree to bribing police officers..."

You should have made a report to MACC on this attempt by that disgrace police asking for bribery from you.

Anyway, just stay cool and I hope you will be able to go through this difficult time.

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written by fdqn, May 21, 2009 13:02:01
Dear YB RPK and Marina,As parents,it pains me so much to see what both of you and the rest of the family are going through now,as i write this my tears are still steaming down my cheeks, Be strong,believe in the good lord,and most of all please dont give up on your son, althought he is already 'written off' decades ago, BUT still blood is thicker than water,let him learn his mistakes and move on life with the rest of the family,Be strong YB,cos not only your family needs you,we all need you as well,Highest salutations to you and family and may god bless you always.
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written by KC Chin, May 21, 2009 13:04:29
RPK, apology? Not acceptable. You shouldn't apologise. It was not your fault. We are the one should apologise to you.

We all should do more for the country then just RPK sacrifice his family for our well being. We all are selfish.

I am very sorry to you and your family. I hope you can accept my humble apology.

Regards,
KC Chin
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written by toorikakari, May 21, 2009 13:04:40
Please do not apologise. It is just not an act on yoru part, nor is Marina's. Its people who are vindictive, taking every opportunity. Take care & have a godo rest
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written by hakuna, May 21, 2009 13:06:26
Pete - I sympathise with you as a father but YOU owe NO ONE an apology. All parents hope their kids turn out well in life but it is merely a HOPE.
Life is such and we learn that there are a lot of things beyond our control even with our loved ones..

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written by alpha1, May 21, 2009 13:14:45
A standing ovation for you & Marina Pete! I don't think many can do what you are doing. My honorable salute to u! Keep up the good work and God bless! smilies/wink.gif smilies/wink.gif
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written by pillars, May 21, 2009 13:18:23

Here is what Khalil Gibran wrote about children:

Children



And a woman who held a baby against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."

And he said:

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable
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written by Nice n Simple, May 21, 2009 13:23:05
TOO BAD...

Your son's actions leading to this situation will no doubt affect your image and somehow tarnish your reputation in a way or two. And you know that as a parent, the shame brought to you and your family, along with your extended family, will not be so easily erasable no matter what you say or do now.

MT supporters will let you off the hook, and sympathise with you, that's a given.

bn supporters will try to hang you.

I will hope that your son learns to change his ways and move toward a better path in time to come, that is my only prayer.

You did the Right Thing, apologising, although there is little need to. This is the Best you can do for now. I admire your courage and your acceptance of life's little challenges that come along the way every now and then. A true gentleman, you are.

Good luck in your exploits. God Bless you and Marina.
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written by Kamikaze, May 21, 2009 13:23:59




COME ON LAH!

http://ooibenghooi.blogspot.co...ns-do.html
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written by Hanuman, May 21, 2009 13:24:05
Dear Yg Mulia,

Nobody can question and doubt your integrity anymore. You and your family can WALK TALL with heads held high up. I salute you and thank you for your contributions to make Malaysia a better place. Syabas.
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written by kampongmali, May 21, 2009 13:28:57
Dear RPK & Mdm Marina,

I am a father of two daughters. My first choice is always my daughters than others. I really feel SAD and feel like CRYING after reading your article. No matter what happens, Raza Azam is still your son. Pray Hard and May GOD show him the right path.

MAY GOD BE ALWAYS WITH BOTH OF YOU. Please don't apologise.....WE KNOW YOU AS A REAL MALAYSIAN CITIZEN
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written by coolandy, May 21, 2009 13:29:44
Yg Mulia,

Despite what he has done, he did own up to his crimes. Still much better that many umnoputras. Even when caught, they will try to abuse the courts.

RPK, we are TRULY proud of you and Marina.
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written by Taikohtai, May 21, 2009 13:29:51
Mate,

You have done very well. 4 out of 5 is 80% or an A.
Ain't bad at all.

As for your prodigal son, I hope he is reading this forum and taking all the advice given. Learn from the past and forge a new beginning that would make you proud, not your parents, your other relatives or friends. Don't put the blame on others as there are millions more unfortunate than you. In other words, you are responsible for yourself just as we too are responsible for ourselves. Only bn thinks that they are responsible for nobody smilies/smiley.gif.
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written by notsosmart, May 21, 2009 13:34:26
Pete....hold on to your believe and priciple. Your righteous will be rewarded upon your return to Allah. You cannot determine your own future, so you don't need to determine the future of your son.
You have a clear mind, and is what I am trying and learning to do, and I hope I will leave this world of samsara with good conscious, to a better karmic world too. You have taught me to speak out against the evil, and I thank you for this. Before I just mind my own self and doing my own things ( MYOB )but the world is not just about me but others. And I have awaken from this ignorant.
So, you don't need to appologise to us. Instead we should appologise to you and your family for all the suffering endured from the righteous thing that you are doing for us.

THANK YOU RPK.
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written by sampalee, May 21, 2009 13:35:52
Every single event no longer how mundane or dramatic is a living lesson from Allah.For mukmim like OUR RPK,he stood the test of being True to Tuhan,even when the police tempted him for a compromise[to sleep with the devil]
The publicity that follow from umno propaganda is Tuhan's way of letting the public know his servant RPK have done well and shame the devil.It is easy to bear the cross for oneself and suffer the pain,but to see the suffering in a love one,such as a son,daughters, sibling,parents are agony without compare.
RPK treat all malaysians as his family.His role and destiny is meant as a testimony for one who understand the kithab.We prayed for a good leader and God have answered our prayers with the person RPK.
HISstory are merely past events unfolding as the scripted STORY of HIM[Allah]
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written by apa jadi, May 21, 2009 13:36:52
All the while I thought you have four children. Thanks for your clarifications here. Now I understand why.

Apology or not is immaterial here. Your clarifications and your stand suffices. Nothing to do with your social standing, just plain righteousness. Now, they cannot put your bells on nut cracker.

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On the hindsight, I feel your this prodigal son is a very reflection of your own self. Retract how you behaved during your growing up years. I am sure your this kid bears the traits you had too(from the stories you related). I think he is a very smart kid too.

Many of us face(d) problems with our growing pains. My kids are in their teen, I too faced the same problem of rebellious kids. It is the hard and soft approach I took to avert the head-on collision. Now they have past their rebellious years and getting on well with their school works.

I feel that your approach during his growing up years was wrong in some way, to lead to this kid's leaving home. Self introspection needed. Every kid has the inherent fear of going against the parents, even though they might appear rebellious. A slight care and giving in during the rebellious years would help avert the collision.

Now, he is a grown man, lacking living skils, you find it harder to get him back to track. As a parent, you can still make your stand clear like what you written here. No two way about it. But at the same time, get him back to your arms. It might help him repent and get back on track.

Just my humble opinion
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written by takbolehtahan, May 21, 2009 13:37:20
Your apology is wholeheartedly accepted even though you needn't have to. We will always walk with you. I hope that I too will have the strength and courage to do what you and Marina have done to uphold such virtuous principles and values.
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written by born2reign, May 21, 2009 13:37:25
Don't write off Raja Azman just yet. He is crying out for attention, and it's sad that adults are still throwing tantrums at his age. At this age, if he and you are willing, I suggest family counselling to heal your family relationships.

Many times, it's words left unsaid, angry words carelessly said...but always leave the door open, even if there's disagreements. Just because I disagree with my parents does not mean I love them less. You shouldn't bail him out, he earned his punishment however many times if a father will seek out his son, he may just receive you, at the right time right place.

May God be gracious and open up the door of reconciliation for you and your son.
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written by Surich, May 21, 2009 13:41:48
If some of the Tan Sri and Dato follow your examples, this countries will NOT be led by crooks.

I respect you and I would do likewise. every one should be responsible for his own deeds.
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written by fairnessforall, May 21, 2009 13:46:18
Dear RPK, no apologies needed. If anything, our respect for you is even more than ever and nothing the crooks do can change that.

You are not responsible for what your son did. he is already 30 over years and should be responsible for his own actions. It has absolutely nothing to do with you and you need not even feel ashamed of it.

Look at all the stealing being done by the goverment, so what is stealing a motorbike compared to the billions they have siphoned off from tax payers.

We will never hold anything against you for what your son did as we know you are a many of principles and will never sell out.

Keep up the good work and keep guiding us.
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written by bigiblue, May 21, 2009 13:50:23
My heart goes out to you as parents, not many would be brave to do what you are doing.
A child is a child, the hurt does not go away whether he's bad, good or not in touch...
Giod Bless you and your family especially your son Raja Azman
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written by AlwaysFair, May 21, 2009 13:50:51
Dear RPK,

Maybe it is a blessing in disguise your son was apprehended in time and jailed b4 he could go on to commit worse crimes.
Hope he will repent for his actions in prison and turn over a new leaf.
Anyway, never give up on him in this hour of need because whatever he is or has become, your blood flows in him and he is your SON.

May God's rich blessings be with you and your family!!!
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written by lab76820, May 21, 2009 13:52:09
Greetings Uncle Pete & Aunt Marina,

I can understand to a certain extend how u felt, becoz I too had a sibling who had numerous brushes with the law over the past 30 years. Yes, 30 long years. I still remembered to times we travelled across the different states to visit this "prodigal son" of our family. Unlike you, we have given out bribes to buy him a chance. But bribes after bribes and chances after chances...... until we finally ended up seeing him in court awaits his punishment and the anguish & pain on my mom's face and the utter exhaustion all this brings to her tiny frame. Even till today, the journey continues. We just hope he had learned his lesson well and his faith in God is strong enough to guide him to the right path for his own sake and not everyone else. After, this is his life. No one could stay forever with one - whether its between parents & children, husband & wife or among siblings.
Let him learn his learn Uncle Pete & Aunt Marina. Sometimes its takes a deep cut for a wound to really heal. Perhaps this "unkind" cut is the one that could salvage him.
God Bless!
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written by Gargamel, May 21, 2009 13:59:24
Bravo, Pete. I don't know what made your son turn out to be the person that he is today, but I commend you for standing up for your principles. And one more slap on the face for the police.
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written by choong, May 21, 2009 13:59:51
Dear RPK,

For those who commit crimes, they should be prepared to pay for the consequences. However, the family of the criminal should not be treated as criminals or accessories just because they share the same DNA. This only shows how immature and bigoted we are if we even think in that manner.

You are not your son's minder since he is an adult. So need not apologise. The one should apologise is your son, not you.
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written by tkahyap, May 21, 2009 14:03:30
take care pete and family.

hope your son will insaf one day.
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written by Farida, May 21, 2009 14:03:46
Dear RPK and Marina,
You have walked your talk in many, many ways and never wavered. Your son chose a different path and I believe and hope this is a turning point for him. Trust that God always turns things around for good.

You have held on to your principles and heartbreak was often the answer. But in doing so you have raised the bar like never before and we, who must follow likewise, know it can be done and must be done.

All I can say is 'thank you' from the bottom of my heart for your sacrifices for the nation. It is a debt that can never be repaid.
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written by lvbala, May 21, 2009 14:18:53
Dear Pete,

Everyone have their part and role to play... Every step is a learning process. It is the learning part of him. Sometimes someone need the hard way of teaching.

Experience is a harders kinda of a teacher,
It will test you first and the lesson afterward...

Cheers bro
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written by BORN FREE, May 21, 2009 14:23:24
So sorry for you & MArina. But whatever it is, its not your fault.
Your son is a grown up man, as a parent u gave him a life but then
u are not accountable for his actions. He choosed to leave the house,
be disowned and therefore, the fault is not yours nor Marina. Look at
the rest of your kids, they are leading a good life so that speaks for it !
Dont worry, we still love u !! Nothing to be ashamed !!
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written by yellowwoman, May 21, 2009 14:39:00
Dear Raja Petra,
You are an even greater person than I thought you are.

Why do you need to apologise to the nation at all?

As a parent, I know your and Marina's pain.
Maybe God has a plan that he has not disclose yet.
Stay strong.
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written by Arowana, May 21, 2009 14:43:27
Dear Bro Pete,

You did the right thing and made the right decision. Good karma will befall on you and your family.

Let junior wake up and hopefully he will return to the right path.

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written by jay, May 21, 2009 14:57:57
Yeah RPK, you did the right thing.
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written by uxzee, May 21, 2009 15:08:33
Your son may be as bad but not worse than Tun Razak's son, Mahathir's son, Hussein Onn's son, Najib's son, Nazri's son, Ahmad Said's son, Pak Lah's son and son -in-law and many more.

The difference is all the other parents succumb to their fear in God, concience and priciples - but you stood tall and bore the pain.
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written by kenny, May 21, 2009 15:12:38
Many good, kind and understanding comments!

Pete, allow me a few sincere words too.

It didn't occur to me that my deepest admiration and respect for you as a very outstanding patriot could still be further increased. And increase, it did.

Under your selfless and expert tutelage of the masses, the present situation for you, Marina and family and all Malaysians can only turn for the better in not too long a time.

Keep healthy and safe, bro.
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written by dassky2000, May 21, 2009 15:15:11
Dear RPK, I am a father too. I have five boys. I go arround preaching good and my boys do the opposite, does that mean my wife and I are responsible for their doings? Each one is born with his or her own ideology and lifestyle. No one can change that.

Be happy, why worry. This is just an act in gods play. Eventually it comes to an end with an applause. God bless you.
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written by southallman, May 21, 2009 15:15:53
RPK,

One of the world's greatest soul Mahatama Ghandhi shared similar pains of parenthood with you. He too had a wayward son who did nothing but brought pain and tested his father's resolve. In the end his son died a sad pitiful death while the whole nation world mourned Mahatama's passing away as if he was one of thier own.

No apology required - no apology accepted. God Bless
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written by tumbledore, May 21, 2009 15:16:31
why do you apologise?

your moral ground is firm and you did your duty
as a parent. an adult person has to face the
consequences of his actions.

the bigger fault lies with the failed system-
education, police and etc.

our thoughts are with you at this trying time.

keep your head up, you have the integrity to look
down on most of the supposedly moral persons in our country!
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written by tokbahaman, May 21, 2009 15:27:32
Dear YM RPK and Marina. No apologies required, really. We are with you.
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written by sambal muncha, May 21, 2009 15:41:22
Dear Pete,

No need for apologies whatsoever really. Just keep your head up to the sky so we can continue to look up to you. God bless you and Marina.
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written by dkkl, May 21, 2009 15:41:44
A Man with principle.... Tabik!

I Dont think Najis can do the same..... most likely pdrm will release immediately if know to be najis's son
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written by Anti Relon, May 21, 2009 15:43:20
Dear YM Raja Petra,
Terima kasih. You don't have to apologise.
It is from your heart. You have amplified how lucky Malaysians are.
Everything will be fine for you and Marina and the family.
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written by renoir, May 21, 2009 15:46:10
Generally good comments here. As a fellow father and grandfather, I understand Pete's feelings and as I said before, whatever happened regarding his son has little to do with his patriotism, his fight for justice and a better nation. Some of us here are older and perhaps with more years of formal education, but few, if any, can rival RPK's positive impact on our country. For all that, we - and I hope all present and future citizens - will always remember that Malaysia, for all its failings, did produce a remarkable hero. We can consider that as God's blessing.

Regards to Pete and Marina,
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written by khalnayak, May 21, 2009 15:47:24
Hail RPK,the wizard of truth
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written by truthbespoken, May 21, 2009 15:54:34
Pete and Marina, touch heart. All of us here are with you just as you have been with us all along during these testy times. More importantly, take care of your health always.
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written by aryn, May 21, 2009 16:10:41
You did the right thing, my friend.

At 32, your son is an adult and therefore he should take responsibility for his own actions. Having had brushes with the law on numerous times, I believe this is inevitable and hopefully, he'll learn his lessons and turn into a new leaf.

My advise though, don't let him walk alone for this the time when he needs support the most.

As for your detractors, you can look at them in the eye and with your head held high. Stay safe.
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written by mob1900, May 21, 2009 16:13:19


RPK,
We are with you and family through thick and thin!
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written by Taiping60, May 21, 2009 16:14:12
RPK,
most of us are parents and do have a black sheep in our home.

My advise is no matter how bad they are, don't push them away. try to embrace them although it is painful at time. Afterall god gave them to us and there have to be a reason.
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